I think i was dating a sociopath
Hare’s psychopathy checklist, the official psychological tool used to diagnose the disorder. (Real talk: I’m still struggling with the embarrassment of being "had," even though I intellectually know that the emotional abuse was not my fault.) It’s estimated that 4 percent of the population fall under the sociopath banner, so chances are I’ve met a few.
(For the record, I met several of the other women involved with him at the same time.
It wasn’t until he began pressuring me to get an impulse tattoo, tearing around mountain roads in his luxury car, or attempting to push my sexual limits that I realized he wasn’t just another free spirit.
It's an action common among sociopaths, due to their inability to form emotional bonds, Stout explains.
If he was dating me because I was a "cool girl" (unlike all the others), then I had to act the part.
No getting jealous if he talks to or looks at other girls.
No making demands on him to help figure out big life decisions.
No questions when suddenly he didn’t text or call when he agreed to."It also introduces a lack of accountability for his actions," Pam Shaffer, LMFT tells Bustle.
Who wouldn't want someone game for a weekend trip to Amsterdam or a round of day drinking?
“And so without our primordial attachments to others, what would we be? "Evidently, we would be the players of a game, one that resembled a giant chess match, with our fellow human beings as the rooks, the knights, and the pawns.
For this is the essence of sociopathic behavior, and desire."What better way to stir up drama than jealousy?
"Given a sociopath's lack of empathy and manipulative nature, it makes this behavior doubly effective."Poisonous snakes have their bright colors, and sociopaths have their charm.
After all, why would you voluntarily become their plaything if you weren’t convinced you were getting something out of it?