Dating black women vs white women
and pretty much everywhere with thriving gay nightlife! She was just making conversation, and she was doing most of the heavy lifting, so I let her flex her stuff. Actually, I find them more attractive than white people. In real life, the Kardashians and Jenners aside, Ariana Grande, Heidi Klum, Iggy Azalea, and Nicole Kidman, are just several famous white women who have fallen for famous black men (Rapper Big Sean, singer Seal, NBA star Nick Young, and Lenny Kravitz, respectively).
One of the first things she told me was how attractive she finds black men. In fact, although she complimented my biceps, she made no direct comment on my looks — unless you consider a compliment about “black men” in general a direct compliment to each one of us. This season on Hilary Duff’s Kelsey is in a lust triangle with a white political podcaster and a colleague who happens to be a man of color, and the interracial romance between the characters played by Allison Williams and Daniel Kaluuya was the crux of last year’s Oscar-nominated smash .
My friend likes black girls, but he doesn’t like them too dark!
”Against my better judgment, I assumed that the wingman just wasn’t very good at his job and started talking to his friend anyway.
Clearly I was first and foremost a black man to her… She probably wouldn’t have been having the conversation with a straight black guy either.
The men are just hotter.” She sounded almost apologetic, which meant she’d spent some time thinking not only about her proclivity for black people but also about how it must come across to them.
Contrary to what many white people who find black people more attractive than white people might think, some black people don’t really care. Not only did she love black men, but she could pull in the cream of the chocolate crop, one who had barely aged. He wasn’t a bad-looking guy, but I didn’t think he was any reason to show off to a complete stranger either. She could take that as “Yeah, he’s hot” if she wanted to. By then she’d moved on to new business: the nights she made out with girls.
We’d rather be judged on our individual physical merit, not the physical merit of our race. I was kind of curious, but I was more interested in seeing a throwback photo from the ’90s than in seeing what he looked like in the present day. I wondered if she would think I was self-loathing if I told her I didn’t think he deserved her accolades.
We’d rather pretend that you like us for us, not for that specific physical attribute that we share with every other black person. She started to tell me about the guy she lost her virginity to 20 years earlier. Now here is where our interaction started to venture off the rails. Once she found the photo she was looking for, she was on a roll.
She pulled out her phone and began clicking through photos. She showed me a succession of recent pictures of her then-40ish first-timer posing outside shirtless because, well, why not?